(Minghui.org) I met my future husband while we were both studying at a university. We got along well for the first eight years of our marriage. I also had a good relationship with all of his family.
Then one day, without warning, my husband said he wanted a divorce. My father had been implicated when a CEO of an insurance company got imprisoned. My husband said he was afraid that my father would affect his promotion and social status. Unbeknown to me, however, he was having an affair.
He was very determined, so I had no choice but to agree to divorce.
Maintaining a Heart of Compassion
My husband came from a poor family. When we married, it was my family who gave us an apartment and most of our belongings. He also had a bad temper, while I was quiet and mild-tempered. My friends and relatives thought that I had married beneath me. They were angry when they heard that my husband wanted a divorce. Some of them suggested that I talk to his boss and try to get him demoted , and others suggested that I ask for more money from him.
I didn't listen to them. I had been practicing Falun Dafa for the past five years, so I did my best to follow Master's teaching that we should deal with everything with a kind heart and not have thoughts of fighting with others. Since my husband chose to divorce me, I decided that I should respect his choice.
Our divorce was peaceful. He did not want custody of our young son, so our son stayed with me. A friend said that it would be difficult for me to marry again with a young son on my hands, but I didn't pay her much heed. I was happy to have my three-year-old son. I took care of him and planned to educate him well so that he would grow up to be a polite and kind person.
I decided that if my husband didn't give me enough money, I would not ask him for more. I worked at a bank, and my income was enough to support me and my son. Some people said I was being foolish.
Some of my friends also advised me not to have anything to do with my ex-husband's family, and not to allow them to see my son. I did not feel that this would be good for my son, and neither would it be fair to my ex-husband and his relatives.
As a practitioner, I should not have any hatred toward others. I should have a heart of compassion and consider others first.
Preserving Family Harmony
I did not feel a loss after the divorce. I was healthy, as I had recovered from cervical spondylosis through practicing Falun Dafa. I could do all of the housework and kept my home clean and tidy. I was calm and did not harbor any bad thoughts. I did my job well, took good care of my son, and visited my parents frequently.
I spent my spare time studying the Fa and did not feel lonely. Despite the persecution, I have never wavered in my determination to practice cultivation. Falun Dafa is good!
My ex-husband's family were a little nervous about seeing me after the divorce. They were also afraid that I wouldn't allow them to see my son. However, they soon realized that I was the same person as before. Thus, they became comfortable with me again and treated me and my son well. They came to pick up my son for a visit once a week. When they returned him, they brought me food and fruits.
My former father-in-law also brought food to me at work every week—more than I could finish sometimes. I told him that it was not necessary, but he insisted, saying that he would continue to do so until my son was 18 years of age. I was very moved by his kindness, which extended to praising me in front of others and always referring to me as his daughter-in-law.
I returned the kindness by sending my former parents-in-law gifts for birthdays and holidays. We maintained a strong, loving relationship. Seeing my harmonious relationship with them, my colleagues admired me.
When my ex-husband realized that I did not hate him or seek revenge, he was very moved. He drove to my workplace each month to pay me 2,000 yuan for our son's living expenses. Sometimes we would discuss our son's education and well-being.
My Family is Blessed by Dafa
If I didn't practice Falun Dafa, I would not have been able to handle my divorce so well. Because I behaved according to Dafa's principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance and did my best to live in harmony with others, I gained happiness as well.
It has been eight years now since my divorce. I have a good job and a happy life. My boss is good to me and respects my belief.
My son has grown up to be smart and well-behaved. He has done well academically and is healthy, both mentally and physically. He has held no bad feelings about living with a single parent. My ex-husband still has his old job, and my former father-in-law, who is now in his 70s, is healthy and can still ride his bicycle.
The blessings of Dafa have shined on my whole family!
