(Minghui.org) In the spring of 2003, I met with my husband for the first time in two years after I started wandering about to avoid the persecution in 2001. He told me that he was having an affair with his colleague and asked for my permission to live with her.
He told me that after I left home, he was very lonely. When his colleague came to visit him, she treated him very nicely. After they came together, she asked my husband to divorce me and marry her.
I was shocked. I tried my best to control all the thoughts that surged up and remain calm. I reminded myself that I'm a practitioner and I needed to conduct myself according to the requirements of Dafa.
In his heart, my husband didn't want to divorce me. After I started practicing Dafa, I changed my competitive temper and stopped fighting with him, and I became very considerate of him. He had schistosomiasis liver disease and had to be hospitalized every year. However, after I practiced Dafa, he never went to the hospital again and he no longer had any discomfort in his kidney. He was the witness of the amazing power of Dafa himself, and he always said good things about it to his friends.
I understood his struggle. I said, “I really appreciate your telling me this, but I can't support your living with her. It's illegal. And if I support you, I will be supporting you two doing bad things. As a father, what will your son and daughter-in-law think of you if you do such things? How can you set a good example for them to be good people? I don't know when I'll be able to come home and settle down. If you really like her, we can divorce and you can marry her. However, you can't have your feet in both camps.”
Keeping my Heart Unmoved My husband said, “I don't want to divorce you. I will stop seeing her.”
After a few weeks, I went back home again and found that my husband was still living with that woman, buying groceries and cooking for her. He also spent quite a lot of money and time renovating her house. Hearing all this, I managed to keep my heart unmoved.
I went home again with my son on December 29, 2003. My husband wasn't at home, and the place was filthy. My son called him immediately and asked him to come home. That woman grabbed the phone from my husband and threatened me that she was, “going to report me to the police!”
My husband's sister-in-law found my husband and brought him back. He was very upset. I didn't argue or fight with him, but calmly said, “You shouldn't do this, it's not good for either one of you.”
After talking to him, I spent some time thinking about the situation: how should I deal with this issue as a Dafa practitioner. It's no accident that such things happened to me, and there must be some attachments I need to let go of. Master said in Zhuan Falun : “Why do you encounter these problems? They are all caused by your own karma. We have already eliminated for you many, numerous pieces of it, leaving only that tiny bit which is divided into tribulations at different levels for upgrading your xinxing, tempering your mind, and removing your different attachments. These are all your own tribulations that we use to improve your xinxing, and you will be able to overcome them. As long as you upgrade your xinxing, you can overcome them. Unless you, yourself do not want to do so, you can make it, provided you want to overcome them.” (Lecture Four in Zhuan Falun)
Staying Calm in a Stressful Situation
I couldn't just watch them doing bad things and keep creating karma for themselves. But persuading them to be good was easier said than done. My husband wasn't listening to me, and I couldn't initiate a fight with him, but only handle things peacefully and calmly.
One paragraph from Zhuan Falun popped up in my mind: “During the process of transforming karma, to keep yourself under control—unlike an everyday person who would mess things up—you should always maintain a heart of benevolence and a mind of kindness. If you suddenly bump into a problem, you will be able to take care of it properly.” (Lecture Four in Zhuan Falun)
When I tried to talk to my husband again, he didn't say a word. I could tell he was struggling with himself. The only thing I could do was to talk to that woman. I asked her neighbor to tell her, “I sincerely want to talk with you, in a peaceful way. I'm not here to fight with you.”
She agreed to meet with me. When I went there, she was sitting in the living room, and seemed to be very nervous. Some of her friends were sitting in the next room, maybe they were there to protect her if we got into a fight.
With a smile, I greeted her and asked how her son was doing. She immediately relaxed. She became friendly and talked to me. I said to her straight away, “I'm fully aware of what has happened between you and my husband. I don't hate you, and I don't want to hold anyone accountable for it. Let's just move on. I hope you can stop this relationship with him.” I continued, “He doesn't want to marry you anyway. However, if people all know he is living with you, it will damage your reputation. You're still young, if you meet someone you really like in the future, and if he knows about this, what will he think?”
A Peaceful Solution
I also took the opportunity to tell her the facts about Falun Dafa. I explained to her why I had to leave home and wander about, and all the persecution I suffered for holding onto my belief.
I told her that Master said, “When one does something wrong to another person, one must give quite a lot of de as compensation.” (Lecture Seven in Zhuan Falun) I said I hope she wouldn't commit any more sins and would have a bright future. She listened very carefully, and she took in every word I said. Our conversation ended very peacefully.
She really did end the relationship with my husband after that. Three months later, she was introduced to a very nice man and they soon got married.
I used to have a very strong character and wasn't willing to let things go so easily. If this had happened before I started practicing Dafa, I would have never been able to be so tolerant, forgiving and peaceful. I truly experienced the magnificent power of Dafa in changing a person for the good.
My seven years of homeless status ended in January 2008. I went back home and was reunited with my family. My husband was very supportive of me practicing Falun Dafa and he has great respect for Master Li. My son, daughter-in-law and my grandson are all supportive of me as well. It is really like what Master said: “The Buddha-light illuminates everywhere and rectifies all abnormalities.” (Lecture Three in Zhuan Falun)
I started practicing Dafa at the beginning of 1996, when I was 48. Very shortly after I watched Master's lecture videos, my kidney stones were discharged. After a while, my gallstones and angina also disappeared.
Words can't express how grateful I am towards Dafa. I hope more people will have a chance to learn about Falun Dafa and benefit from it.
Category: Improving Oneself
