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Discussing the Issue of Desire Between a Married Couple

Nov. 24, 2015 |   By a practitioner from Hebei Province, China

(Minghui.org) Some practitioners feel too embarrassed to talk about the issue of desire between married couples and how to let go of this attachment. They find it hard to even mention it.

The Fa rectification is coming to an end. If we still don't pay attention to this issue or improve ourselves accordingly, how can our bodies be purified?

I have had some first hand experiences of this issue. My husband is not a practitioner. If I didn't have righteous thoughts and just went along with him when he had these thoughts, my body would feel awful the following day. This tells us that we need to restrain ourselves and get rid of this human notion, and then improve from it.

Some practitioners around me had their lives taken away by the old forces, some were arrested and some are still experiencing this kind of tribulation. I think all of these tribulations are related to the desire of lust.

I tried to study the Fa with those who were experiencing this form of tribulation and shared with them, but they were still interfered with by the old forces and have symptoms of sickness karma. I asked them where their loopholes were, and they said that they couldn't find them. They realized that it was interference, but sending righteous thoughts didn't seem to have much effect.

I will give some examples.

A male practitioner went through serious sickness karma three times. His wife disclosed that he had gotten a strong desire of lust, which affected him once every two or three weeks.

His wife is also a practitioner and warned him that if things didn't change, she would reveal it to other practitioners. After hearing this, the practitioner was furious with her and told her that he would go become a monk at a temple.

His wife gave in to him, and he suffered from serious sickness karma again and again, until in the end he lost his life.

A female practitioner also had a very strong attachment to lust and desire. Her sickness karma made her lose consciousness a few times. I once asked her if she still had the attachment of lust, but she denied it.

One time, a practitioner from another city wanted to help this practitioner. She took her to her home and wanted her to stay there for a few days. However, the practitioner had a dream that night that her husband married another woman. The next morning, she desperately wanted to go home. The practitioner tried to persuade her to stay, but she went home immediately. She ultimately passed away some time later.

Another male practitioner had the same problem, according to his wife, who is also a practitioner. I tried to remind him subtly, but he didn't pay heed to it. Soon after that, his wife was arrested.

The old forces are watching intently for our loopholes, and then use all kinds of tactics to persecute us and drag us down. But some practitioners are not able to see this or take action accordingly.

We can't use the excuse of conforming to everyday society to defend ourselves. Master said:

“But as a cultivator you can’t confuse yourself with an everyday person. To put it a bit seriously, you’re no longer human. As I just said, humans have various emotions and desires, and live for emotion (qing). During the course of cultivation you are gradually taking these things more lightly and gradually letting go of them until you completely discard them.” (Lectures in the United States- Teaching the Fa in New York City)

We are not everyday people anymore. We are cultivators who walk on the path of divine beings. Don't gods' bodies become pure only after removing various filthy things?

The practitioners who I just mentioned above appeared to be diligent, and their understandings on the Fa were also clear. They did the three things well, but didn't want to confront their attachment of desire. They knew that lust is something we need to get rid of, but they didn't pay much attention to eliminating those dirty elements when sending righteous thoughts.

Those practitioners also didn't want to tell others about it, and thought it was hard to speak about it. But in covering it up, they were in fact harboring it. Therefore, it is like providing a huge dimensional space for the evil to stay and making it easy for them to take advantage.

I just want to bring this to the attention of those who haven't been serious about this issue, and are unable to extricate themselves, especially those with sickness karma. Try to disintegrate the old forces' interference, and don't look at that desire as part of yourself.

This is my own shallow understanding, please point it out with compassion if anything is incorrect.