(Minghui.org) I am 62 years old and retired from the Forest Service Bureau. I used to be tough, and my husband and my son had to listen to me no matter what.
My husband had a love affair when I was 41 years old. I felt humiliated and asked him for a divorce. He said no and threatened to kill me if I did.
I told him I had to divorce him regardless of what action he would take.
We went to court for the divorce proceedings, and it was determined that the house and child belonged to me. I did not ask him to pay child support because I hated him so much I didn’t want to see him anymore.
The following year, 1996, I learned about Falun Gong (also called Falun Dafa) and began to practice it.
I watched Master Li Hongzhi’s lecture videotape at the practice site for the first time. The three large Chinese characters displaying Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance appeared on the screen. I knew in my heart that these three characters were so good.
These three words were etched in my memory from then on. After two months of practicing Falun Gong, all my health problems disappeared, including the numbness in both my hands and my head and severe knee arthritis. Dafa’s super healing results surprised me and I kept studying Zhuan Falun, Falun Gong’s main book.
My view of life and the world underwent a tremendous change.
I looked back on the 40 plus years of my life and realized I never knew the concept of compassion, kindness, and consideration of others during that time. I was the center of my family. I was attached to myself and everything was centered around my hobbies, interests, reputation, and much more. I never tried to see issues from my husband’s point of view.
I always thought I had all the good points and he had all the bad points. I never realized I was being so selfish. If I had not learned Dafa, I would never have seen the true picture of how I really behaved. I knew I needed to adjust myself and become better for the rest of my life.
I sold my house for 28,000 yuan in the summer of 1998. I thought that although I owned the property rights, my ex-husband worked very hard to build the house, so I should not take all the money for myself. Thus I gave him 10,000 yuan.
He was touched and said: “You turned into a very good person, let’s be a couple again!”
I considered that he had a hard life and I no longer hated him. But I still could not yet completely forgive him.
I went to Beijing to appeal for Falun Gong in the spring of 2002. I was illegally detained in a forced labor camp for one year.
My ex-husband again asked to be a couple after I was released and back home. He had been laid off at work and was in debt for 15,000 yuan. He took a temporary job but had no house to live in. I took into account his practical difficulties and agreed to be a couple with him. He cried. It was the first time I saw him cry since knowing him for more than 20 years.
One of his creditors took him to court in 2003. The court directed him to pay his debt to the court monthly.
He told me that he did not want to pay the debt because our child was attending college and our family had a difficult financial situation. The court did not know the company he was working for and couldn’t find him. He suggested that I tell the court we are divorced and I had nothing to do with his debt.
I told him I could not do what he is suggesting. He was mad, slammed the door, and left.
I calmly told him after he came back: “I am practicing Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance, so I shall not lie or cheat. We have to pay the debt regardless of the difficulty we meet. If others refused to pay your money back, what would you think? You keep working and I will pay the money to the court monthly.”
He was no longer angry and agreed to do what I suggested. We cleared the debts one year later.
I was detained in a forced labor camp again in 2010 due to my belief for two years and two months. He was working in a city in south China. When I was released two years later, my former colleague told me that he had another love affair. I asked him and he admitted it was true.
I forgave him this time. I knew he worried about me while I was in the forced labor camp. And I knew it was hard for him to live outside our hometown by himself.
I told him: “You must have your reasons for being with her. If you want to marry her or stay with me, either choice is fine with me. I won’t blame you. You make your own decision.”
He called me several months later and told me that he severed his relationship with that woman.
We moved into a new house in the fall of 2013. My husband framed the calligraphy of the Chinese characters Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance and hung it in our living room. He now respects Dafa.