(Minghui.org) After I began practicing Falun Dafa I became healthy, and learned how to become a good person by following the principles of “Truthfulness, Compassion and Forbearance.”
I used to have a neighbor who hated me for no apparent reason and berated me every day. By following the Dafa principles, I was able to help her change her attitude.
Finding the Root Cause of the Conflict
When we moved to a new home our neighbor wasn’t thrilled. She came to our front yard to shout at us and badmouth us daily. A few months later my daughter-in-law was fed up, and asked me to do something about it. I told her that it didn't bother me. She got upset and thought that I was crazy. She went outside to confront the neighbor. The neighbor said that she just wanted to vent and badmouth us for no reason. Fearing that they would get into a fight, I asked my daughter-in-law to calm down, and persuaded the neighbor to leave. My daughter-in-law couldn’t stand the neighbor, and went back to live with her parents.
I later learned that my neighbor originally wanted to purchase the house we bought, but didn’t have enough money. She thought that we back-stabbed her with a better offer. I looked within and realized that I should have consulted the neighbor before I purchased the house. I also wasn’t considerate of my daughter-in-law’s feelings. I went over to my neighbor’s to apologize. Her sick husband died when I was there. I had my family help out, and also shared in the funeral expenses.
Attitude Change
My neighbor was scared to be at home alone after her husband passed away. No one wanted to take her in because she had such a bad temper. I let her stay with me. She cried and held my hands, “I am truly sorry. I misunderstood you, and badmouthed you for six months. Your daughter-in-law left because of me, and you still have the heart to help me. You are the kindest person I know and I am so grateful.”
I told her to thank the Master of Falun Dafa. “If it wasn’t for Dafa, you and I probably would fight each other to the death. Besides giving me health, Falun Dafa taught me how to be a good person and to be considerate.”
After learning how great the Dafa teachings were, she told me that she would no longer believe the Chinese Communist Party’s (CCP) slanderous propaganda against Dafa on television. She didn’t hesitate to quit the CCP and its youth organizations as I suggested. I also told her that if she could inform others of the truth about Falun Dafa and the persecution, it would bring her good fortune.
The next day she told me that she got into an argument with someone because the person slandered Falun Dafa. “What did Falun Dafa do to you?” she said, “My friend (me) recovered from cancer through the practice. She never said a word when I irrationally badmouthed her for six months. She now let me stay with her after my husband died. Could you do that for me?” She said to me, “I only said those things because I saw the greatness of Falun Dafa in you.”
Her bravery and just act brought her good things in life! She got a job, and got paid a lot more than others doing the same work.
I also was able to improve my relationship with my daughter-in-law by following the principles of Truthfulness, Compassion, Forbearance.
Achieving a Harmonious Family Life
My daughter-in-law got into a big fight with my son. I was about to leave the house and she stopped me. She told me that I wasn’t allowed to go for a walk. She pushed me quite hard and I fell. Without offering any help, she told me to quickly get up. I realized that I might have said something to annoy her earlier when I tried to break up their fight. Then, I quietly left through the backdoor and went to the market to go tell people the truth about the persecution.
When I got home, my son had already heard what she did to me from a neighbor. He was outraged and said that he no longer wanted her in his life. I changed his mind and had him bring her home. I treated her as kindly as I always did, and she was very moved. She bought me a new pair of pants for New Year's and helped me clean the house. When practitioners came over to study the Dafa teachings, she joined us. The practitioners praised her and said that I was fortunate. She was very glad. Falun Dafa has changed me for the better and gave me a harmonious family life.
Category: Improving Oneself
